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Amy had left her relationship 6 weeks earlier, after being with John for 6 months. It was over. John had been under a lot of stress at work and this had put a real strain on their relationship. After a very difficult period, with a lot of hurt and lack of consideration, Amy decided to leave as she could no longer cope with John's attitude and all physical attraction and desire on Amy's part had completely vanished. Here’s how the session went.
Sandra: So when you think about John's behaviour to you, where do you feel this in your body?
Amy: In my stomach, like a heavy round pressure.
Sandra guides Amy with EmoTrance to soften this energy.
Amy: It's spreading out and seems to be flowing downwards to my hips and legs.
Sandra: Where does it want to go next, this energy?
Amy: I feel a warmth travelling down my legs and my feet now feel heavy.
The energy finally leaves from the toes.
Sandra: So now, when you think about John's behaviour to you, how does it feel?
Amy: It's not so bad, but I still feel a small pressure in the stomach.
Sandra guides Amy as before and the energy travels down the legs and leaves the body again.
Amy: It's ok now, it's like, he can be stressed and I can see that he's not getting at me personally, he's just frustrated with his own issues. It doesn't effect me any more, it just makes me feel I want to support him. I can handle it.
Sandra: So what else bothers you about John?
We go through all the things that caused Amy to split up from John and apply the same process to locate the energy in the body, soften the energy and watch it flow and release from the body, until there was nothing else about John that Amy could find fault with.
Then we turned to the physical relationship.
Sandra: So how much are you attracted to John at the moment? 0 to 10?
Amy: 0 at the moment.
Sandra: So when you think of being intimate with him, where do you feel this in your body?
Amy: In my chest, it's like a barrier.
We soften the energy again so that it flows and releases from the body, this time upwards and out through the mouth with the breath.
Sandra: So how much are you attracted to him now?
Amy: 3 out of 10.
Sandra: So there's still a big part of you that isn’t attracted to him. Where do you feel this resistance?
Amy: Low down.
Sandra: So lets soften this energy too. Tell me when its all released...
Now how strong is your attraction?
Amy: 9 out of 10, (looking surprised and very pleased)
Sandra: So there's a tiny bit of you somewhere that doesn't desire him completely, where is that?
Amy: It feels like its in my head actually, kind of near the side of my forehead.
We soften and release this energy and as you can imagine, we get to 10 out of 10 on desire and a very happy Amy (not to mention a happy John) as the couple were subsequently reunited.
A Happy Ending
Amy fell in love all over again with John. They reunited are deeply in love, they moved in together and their relationship and intimacy is also happily restored.
Amy’s relationship is flourishing but it could have been over. Amy could have let this relationship go because she was not able to handle what life was presenting her at the time. By restoring flow in her own energy system not only did she strengthen and increase her ability to handle difficult behaviours but at the same time, she could see them for what they were. What was a personal attack and inconsiderate behaviour now was just an expression of frustration in her partner and a need for her understanding and support, which, once clear in herself she then had the resources to give.
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