How do I love myself? My client said to me. She had no idea how to begin. She told me that she felt disconnected and also felt her Mum, who died afew years ago, didnâ€™t love her. In fact the whole idea of a mother loving a baby daughter was an alien concept for her. A Mother loving a baby boy was ok. She didnâ€™t feel love at all. So where do we begin?
Sandra HillawiEnergist and Trainer - Assisting Energy Flow Towards Love
Life was feeling hard for some time now.
A recent client was a Wife and Mother of two with her own business. She was shouldering the responsibility of earning to support the family as her husbandâ€™s income was less than hers and working to improve herself and her future through studies. She was struggling to manage it all. Â She had reached a point of feeling that life was so hard and wanted to rest from carrying all these responsibilities and wished her husband could get a better job and support them all. She was feeling this way for a long time and didnâ€™t have much energy. Some small feelings of resentment for her husband were building at this point for not being more progressive. I introduced her to EMO.
How important is it to learn how to love yourself? It can be life saving. Life is not always easy. At these times there is not always someone around to give us support. Our energy and emotional state may be low. Our stress, disturbed thinking and behaviour can hold us back in life, we don't function well and we make waves for others who have to deal with the state we are in. When we have love, we have more to give, we function well and our energy is attractive. We can bring ourselves back to love and wholeness by cultivating a loving relationship with ourself.
These three stories show how loving ourself can bring us back to a happy positive state of love.
I really want to thank you so much for the 2 session of EFT we had recently in June.
I would like others to know how wonderful the sessions and the result of the sessions hasÂ been for me so I am sending you this in the hope that you can post it for others to read. I only want to talk about the first session in this email as the sessions were very different . Both were on Severe physical symptoms. Â My asthma attack and then I will write about the one on my eye surgery later.
The first session we did was at the end of a particularly fierce bout of asthmaÂ that I hadÂ a few weeks ago.
I may be an Energy Trainer, I may be author of The Love Clinic, but I am not immune to the waves of life that I still must navigate on my own personal journey. In fact with an open heart I feel my life well and itâ€™s not always easy. Knowing how to love and heal myself is life saving knowledge at the times when there is no-one else around.
Last week, my energy was low. I longed for someone to talk to about my situation and my feelings. But there was nobody available with the patience and capacity needed for me to lighten my own energy by sharing with another.
I tried to focus on my work but my low state stopped me doing anything. Instead I spent time in all kinds of distractions until I decided I had to deal with my energy by myself.
There may be many reasons for this situation arising in relationships when you feel you are not getting what you need. One partner may be absent, or ill, or stressed or emotionally unavailable for their own reasons. We all need energy and nourishment from our relationships. In such times of our need and when our main relationship is not around we look around for nourishment from other directions, other relationships.Â It can be a risky time for a relationship and a time when knowing how to love yourself is important to avoid future relationship problems arising.
My love was in hospital. I was far away. He needed an intervention for his heart. I was powerless to do anything. My heart was breaking. I felt a real pain in my heart for him in his health crisis and for my powerlessness. I couldnâ€™t function. My heart really ached.Â There was nothing I could do except to heal my own heart break.
I just had a wonderful session of Positive EFT with a client wanting to start a weight loss plan. Having started to ask how she felt about weight and to tap on the feelings of sadness the client said 'Im really resisting looking at and feeling that'. So I turned the question around to Positive EFT and asked : 'how do you want to feel about your weight and body?' She answered : 'I want to feel comfortable in my skin' and thats how we started. Read on for how we reached a fabulously energising motivating session where my client couldnt wait to get started.
Today I used the f word. I know. I was shocked at myself too.
So what does it take to turn a patient loving Sandra Hillawi into and angry defensive swearing one?
It takes someone trampling over a sensitive subject. If I'm honest it shows me that I haven't healed that yet. Doesn't mean to say that it's ok to call a person you don't know a **** especially when you don't know what that person has lived through and why.Â
Judgement and disrespect is hurtful to most people. But it doesnt have to be.
Susan contacted me through my www.healingretreats.net Â website, looking for an emotional healing retreat. That week she had discovered her husband had had an affair. Susan was devastated. The hot pain of betrayal seared through her core, her future was no longer certain her self confidence had taken a real knock. After the revelation, whilst her husband then went on to have an epiphany and change of heart apologising profusely and wanting their marriage to continue, Susan was not so sure. He had broken their marriage vow and she wanted time away to decide what to do. Could she heal or was the marriage over? She booked a two day retreat with me leaving him to wrestle with his uncertainty and as we sat in the gardens of our Summer venue and under the shade of beautiful trees we had the following sessions using EMO. Was it possible to heal and repair Susanâ€™s energy system, their relationship, heal her broken heart and her relationship with herself?
For those among us who have loved ones suffering from heart problems I wrote something that could be healing and also humourous and uplifting, Conversation With My Heart.
It shows the essence of what we need for any reconciliation and healing and how conversation can facilitate energy flow in this case towards relaxing and healing releasing stress and restoring flow. I am sharing it in case anyone else may find it helpful for themselves or a loved one.
Conventional EFT vs Positive EFT
Heal the trauma or raise the energy?
I had the privilege to work with a wonderful client recently, a new trainee EFT practitioner, with interesting symptoms. She was very brilliant in her professional work, able to hold her focus in her job but disconnected easily in all other areas of life, finding it easier not to care about anything. She suffered alot form boredom. I noticed this playing itself out in the training course, as she zoned out and appeared not engaged or with us at times. She wanted to find a solution to this, as she felt she was not really alive and living her life, and wanted to feel happy and enjoy her life but she had been this way for years.
Soften and Flow, Bring in Your Love To Make You Glow
Here is a poem of Strength a Mantra just for you
On one of my recent Positive EFT video conference trainings I was doingÂ the exercise with one of the participants about tapping to send positive energy to someone who is absent, distant healing. Or we can simply call it 'an energy gift' to someone we care about. A week later I got this testimonial back from the participant Sue who I worked with to send an energy gift to her daughter.
Yesterday I was feeling numb and shut down as I had some hard and heart wrenching news to deal with about my partner, again in hospital, and just didnt want to feel the pain of it again.
'I want more gentleness'
I met MarylÄ±n whÄ±le training Ä±n London. She had a beautÄ±ful radÄ±ant energy of love but was sufferÄ±ng terrÄ±bly from anxÄ±ety especÄ±ally at nÄ±ght. It was somethÄ±ng sheâ€™d suffered on and off through her lÄ±fe but she had masked the effects wÄ±th lÄ±ght alcohol drÄ±nkÄ±ng and choosÄ±ng to work at nÄ±ght and sleep Ä±n the day, tryÄ±ng medÄ±catÄ±on at tÄ±mes, and dÄ±stractÄ±ng herself as much as she could. We met for an EFT session.
EMO (was EMO) helps a woman who cant feel her husbands love
Sarah has been married for 4 years. Â 'I love my husband and he loves me but I can't feel his love, I cant accept his love'. We explored thÄ±s energy dynamic wÄ±th EMO discoverÄ±ng her sheilds and barriers to his love energy and after gentle step by step healing the client was able to let go of her shield and resistance and accept his love at last then later explained why she had the problem. Â This is how the session went.
'He had an affair. My heart is broken. I love him but how can I ever trust him again?' These were the words from a colleague of mine which lead to my first healing story of The Love Clinic, healing love pain and helping improve relationships through the very different medium of modern energy work, in this case, namely EMO.
'I am an author.' I feel such joy to say that, as right now I havenâ€™t even written the book, but at the same time I feel like Iâ€™ve finished.
Iâ€™ve just come off the phone from a fab EMO session with my ET buddy Baya, a fellow EMO trainer and dear friend, and she has helped me get into the energy state of not only writing but having finished the book.
This energy of completion is amazing. â€˜I am an authorâ€™ fills me with joy and delight! This flow of energy has made the book I amÂ about to write flow so easily.
How did we start? Well Iâ€™d been procrastinating about this for ages...
One of my past clients emailed me to say her husband had died last week after a rapid decline in health from cancer which had metastasised. She had just returned from the cremation when she emailed me, still in shock and now had to face the dealing with all his affairs, finances, organising when all she really wanted to do was have time to grieve.
I phoned her to see how she was doing and to offer my assistance to help her release or process all that was happening.
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