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Love Clinic Retreat To Save A Marriage

Love Clinic Retreat To Save A Marriage

Susan contacted me through my  website, looking for an emotional healing retreat. That week she had discovered her husband had had an affair. Susan was devastated. The hot pain of betrayal seared through her core, her future was no longer certain her self confidence had taken a real knock. After the revelation, whilst her husband then went on to have an epiphany and change of heart apologising profusely and wanting their marriage to continue, Susan was not so sure. He had broken their marriage vow and she wanted time away to decide what to do. Could she heal or was the marriage over? She booked a two day retreat with me leaving him to wrestle with his uncertainty and as we sat in the gardens of our Summer venue and under the shade of beautiful trees we had the following sessions using EMO. Was it possible to heal and repair Susan’s energy system, their relationship, heal her broken heart and her relationship with herself?

Our UK retreat venue Sedgwick Park House

Day 1

1 Letting Go

The first session was to release the overwhelm of all the emotions Susan was experiencing. She arrived appearing strong but as soon as she started to tell me what happened and I asked, ‘so how are you feeling now today about everything?’ she welled up and was overcome with emotions. I asked her where in her body she felt all the pressure? She said ‘its everywhere’ she sobbed. So we gently turned our attention and softening intention to this all over energy state of heaviness in the body until she started to feel energy movement and flow, breathing it out and letting it drain out of her body until Susan started to feel more clear headed, lighter and able to talk about the specific details of what had happened more calmly.

2 The Double Room

In our second session we turned to the most powerful emotional event which was discovering an email that showed her husband had booked a double room at a hotel with another woman. The realisation of this affair together with the thought of him in bed with her was a powerful injury to the whole of her energy body, ripping through her. She let out a primal scream from this injury deep in her soul. This showed up in our session as blockages in every major energy centre, the forehead, throat, chest, solar plexus, abdominal and base all were blocked with pressure and pain. So we brought our attention and gentle softening intention to each of these injuries one by one, I joining with my energy hands til the energy started to soften flow and release. Amazingly we made great progress and we healed and released most of the energetic injuries.  Then it was time to stop and have lunch. Susan took some time to journal some of her thoughts and feelings before session 3.

3 The Betrayal

In the afternoon Susan was much calmer, less emotional and able to be precise about what still was hurting her. It was the betrayal of trust and the breaking of their marriage vow. She felt this pain in her heart. Again, we brought energy hands and softening intention to the injury in the heart and eased and relaxed this. Susan was amazed after these three sessions that she felt the real possibility that their marriage could actually be restored and was feeling completely different now about the discovery of this affair. It was definitely something that she could put behind her, especially as her husband had woken up to the consequences of his actions and realised the damage it had caused and that he really wanted his marriage to Susan. We had a longer break for dinner and talked over the remaining issues.

4 Trust

The remaining issues were about trust. How could she trust him again after this? She shared that she didn’t want to live her life with mistrust and suspicion and controlling behaviours. She wanted to be a person that lived by choosing to trust and that to betray or abuse or honour that trust was the responsibility of her partner and what kind of a man he was or wanted to be. We still had to heal more injuries in her heart area to be able to restore this trust and once again, as the energy flowed through and out of her body, we did restore this trust. We sat back and  marvelled at the day, how far she had come and we both sat in wonder at the power of energy healing to repair these injuries which would understandably break up many marriages, and yet after only one day, we had really repaired them. The marriage was well on the way to being saved.

Day 2

5  Managing The Next Step

The next steps were practical. Her husband still had to see this person in the course of his daily work and spend time in her presence. We explored how Susan would feel with the other woman still having feelings for her husband and he having to pull himself back and not be so open with her, whilst he started to look for another job. Before this session, Susan’s plan was to ask her husband to tell her every detail of when he saw her, talked to her, and how it went. I gently suggested that this level of control might be difficult for her husband to accept and that this was a need arising from the current state of her energy system, and if we repaired that, this need for control might relax a bit. I asked ‘this need to know everything and have him report back to you everything relating to their encounters where do you feel this in your body?’ We softened and flowed that energy. Then ‘and now at the thought of trusting him to be acting in the right way despite what the other woman might be feeling in all their interactions what did she feel?’ there was again a small pressure in the head which we softened and the energy released. Now we really had restored their relationship.

6 Rebuilding Self Esteem

Susan’s own self esteem had taken a knock by this whole episode. The other girl was younger slimmer. I asked ‘how does this make you feel about yourself when you think of her, young blonde, slim attractive?’ Susan said it made her feel self conscious and insecure about her own body, the few extra pounds she was carrying, her own confidence and sparkle was not as bright as it used to be. This energy was in the head and heart. We softened and released this energy and discussed ways she could start to rebuild her self-love and planned our next session around this, having arrived now at about 6/10 in self love.

7 Growing Self Love

So sitting beside the outdoor pool in the beautiful gardens of our retreat I guided Susan through a self-help BeautyT session. The set up being that all things created by the Creative Order are perfect and beloved by the Creative Order and can be no other way. With attention and touch to each part of the body in turn I lead Susan to introduce positive energy of beauty and belovedness for each part of her body ‘given to her by the Creative Order and was therefore perfect and beloved and could be no other way’ and guided her to breathe, to take in this energy at each step, to soften and flow it through and out, and allow these energies to bring love nourishment to her body, healing her relationship with her body. She felt really great after that, self love rising to about 9 out of 10. There remained only now to direct extra love and healing to the heart energy centre. So with hands on her heart centre I guided Susan to say and give the recognitions appreciation and love to her own heart and to spend some time in this deep loving connection with her own self. We reached a 10 on the self love scale. Susan was just awesome and her energy had come back to being really powerful strong and loving again. She was ready to go home and to talk to her husband. She said she was on a real high and felt really good about everything and their future.

8 Celebration and Poetry

Susan did some more journaling and we had a final celebratory swim in the outdoor pool before departing our retreat centre. On the way home Susan stopped the car for a drink and wrote this poem.


Are there ways that I can explain

About losing my “self” and then finding it again.

Soften and flow. Breath through your heart.

Now no need, no reason to part,

from the man that is mine ever and true

Working as one - this is our cue.

I don’t feel standard. Just heavenly sent.

Never before was money so well spent!


Dark was the future 

but that’s in the past.

Now built a vehicle 

that really can last.


Future proofed pathway

New loving found

Won’t sit on “halfway”

Won’t touch the ground

Rising and gliding into life so unknown

The pride and the glory of how I have grown.


Can’t wait to kiss him

Firm frameworks new

Bring on the rivers

of love that is true.


To my friend

I extend

a rose of red humble

No longer through life will I bump

will I bumble


Don’t get me wrong I arrived well equipped

But life can be hard

Angel wings clipped


Can I fly?

Well I am soaring

How could this happen?

Praise spirit roaring

Praise spirit snigger

To my depths it is boring

Well shit, just go figure!


9 Follow up

Susan went home and husband and wife sat down with courage and complete honesty to share everything. It wasn’t easy to hear everything as there were further revelations. There were further emotional injuries. However, what we had healed, what we had created in flow strength and heart and the evidence that something so huge could still be healed  in a relatively short time, gave Susan the ability to get through everything else, softening and flowing, and now their marriage and relationship is truly saved and they are all good. Her husband also seeking help for his stress and depression which lead him to be susceptible to attentions outside the marriage and blind to the consequences on those he loved. Susan is awesome and now plans to do further training in EMO.

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Posted Aug 15, 2014   

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